We don’t just long for connection.
We long to feel alive in it.
Which of these feels most true for you right now?
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I meet people I like but it never turns into the relationship I’m looking for. Then I wonder: was I actually into this person, or was I just trying to turn it into the relationship I wanted?
02
Every time I start to feel close to someone, I end up wondering where I stand instead of feeling like I matter.
05
I can’t remember the last time I felt wholeheartedly excited about someone who was equally excited about me. I don’t know anymore what falling in love is supposed to feel like.
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From the outside, my relationship looks fine. Inside, I feel like we're more partners in life than partners in love.
In our time together, I pay attention to what's not being said, because it's often where something important is waiting to be noticed.
Whether you are dating or in a relationship, these are some of the areas we can focus on:
I spent a long time dating, both on and off the apps, so I know what it's like to keep having versions of the same experience with different people.
What I've learned is that where we get stuck in dating is often not where we think. Without having to analyze the past, this work is about shifting the way you relate because it shapes what you notice, how you interpret what's happening, what you say, how you respond, and ultimately what becomes possible between you.
That can make all the difference between staying on the dating conveyor belt and meeting your person and creating something extraordinary.
Experiencing what it means to be deeply seen — beyond sharing what's on your mind and how you feel, so more of who you are gets to exist in the relationship.
Expanding your capacity for closeness. What would love say? What would love do? Seeing the role you play in the dynamic and accessing a different way of being. Because how you are in the relationship changes what becomes possible between you.
Expressing what you need and moving through conflict in ways that deepen intimacy.
Seeing more of what may be happening underneath so you don't keep having different versions of the same conversation or argument.
BEHIND DITTOED
My framework has been shaped by years of professional and personal experience with Wall Street executives, founders, investors, and other high performers who excel in nearly every area of life.
In my private work, I see this: people who are committed to growth and accustomed to solving complex problems find themselves stuck on one:
